How do you jugle single parenting and relationships? It seems like a no win situation, I don't want to introduce my kids to everyone I date (not that it's a large number) but then at the same time I don't want to get to involved with someone before they meet my kids. My kids will always come first and if they do not like some one who I am dating, then the dating ends right there.
But what happens when you are dating some one, they have reached the point of meeting your children, and your children love them, but then the problems start. Ya know, that gut feeling they aren't on the up and up.....
Disappearing, not returning phone calls, keeping in touch with people that they admit are trying to hook up with them even though the preson knows they are in a relationship..... The feeling that no matter what you do to get rid of it, just wont go away, that they are running some games on you. What do you do? You know leaving the person will hurt your kids, but staying doesn't really set the best example, clearly you don't want your daughters to think it's okay for a man to treat you that way (no I am not talking about abuse or anything, I am refering to walking all over you) and you don't want your sons to think its ok to treat a woman that way. What do you do? How do you fnd a meaningful relationship, without letting your kids get attached to the wrong one, and protecting them as much as possible, but still finding that compainionship we all need? For me it's not like my kids go with their father on a regular basis (my oldest two, 10 and 8, have the same father, and my son 1, has a different father) So my daughters see their dad on some what of a regular basis (every other friday night) and my son never sees his father. So it's not like I can wait until the kids are with their dad, and then have some mommy time. I love my kids, I want them with me all the time, but I also want some time to spend finding the right person.
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