Well, it has been an exciting few days!! Back in May all three of my chilren went up to St Pete for an open call, for a studio looking for their 2013 banner ad model, about a month later I got a call back saying all three had made it to the next round for the banner ad but a winner would not be announced until dec 31. However, my oldest daughter Charley (age 10) had been picked to shoot for a calendar that goes out to casting agents and directors etc. So Thursday Nov 8th we went to shoot the calendar. Charley had a blast! After the shoot we sat down to look at the pictures and pick one for the calendar, after which the head lady came in and told us some very exciting news. Charley has been picked to do a commercial, it will film in Feb. How awesome!!!
The next day while checking my email, I see one that is inregards to Charley, hmmmm what could this be about? To my surprise it is from an agent!! IN LA!!!! He wants to come meet with her this week!!! Talk about a little girl with her feet 10 feet off the ground!! We are so excited and I am so nervous for her! She is so amazing in so many ways and I know how bad she wants this, I have tried keeping her feet on the ground and explaining the agent may decide he doesn't want to work with her, or she may only ever get the one commercial and that could be it!
Please go check out her Facebook page www.facebook.com/charleywarren2012 : ) she needs as many likes as possible!! Thanks in advance
Monday, November 12, 2012
Tuesday, October 30, 2012
Poor you... I am canceling your pity party
As a healthy 29 year old, with healthy children, but many other problems in my life, I get so mad to see people on social media sites, throwing them selves a pity party. Seriously, it's not that bad. I understand we all have bad days, and some like to wollow in self pity. However, when you decide to wollow in self pity on a social networking site; such as Facebook; your friends are left wondering if you ever grew up.
I completely understand the need to vent, saying "I'm single and I am depressed and I have to get up in the morning and go to work, my life couldn't get any worse" or "OMG I have to be up in 2 hours and I'm still up on Facebook... FML" see that is not a "FML" moment. You see here is a "FML" momment, your 26 year old wife dies of a stroke, your 3 month old grandson dieing, finding out your 12 year old has cancer, finding your son hanging in his apartment, see these are "FML" moments.
When you post about something so stupid like it is the end or the world, you are discrediting yourself, and your ability to deal with situations like an adult. If you need to vent about how bad your life is, call a friend, send a private message. I personally know people going through the above situations, and until you can tell me that you are dealing with some MAJOR, I have offically canceled your pity party. I'm sorry no one wanted to go anyway, we can clearly see that train wreck from a mile away and we want to avoid it anyhow. Please for the love of God, keep you "awful life" to yourself, you are truly the only one that feels bad for you, and in most cases you are the one to blame for your FML moment.... Just sayin
I completely understand the need to vent, saying "I'm single and I am depressed and I have to get up in the morning and go to work, my life couldn't get any worse" or "OMG I have to be up in 2 hours and I'm still up on Facebook... FML" see that is not a "FML" moment. You see here is a "FML" momment, your 26 year old wife dies of a stroke, your 3 month old grandson dieing, finding out your 12 year old has cancer, finding your son hanging in his apartment, see these are "FML" moments.
When you post about something so stupid like it is the end or the world, you are discrediting yourself, and your ability to deal with situations like an adult. If you need to vent about how bad your life is, call a friend, send a private message. I personally know people going through the above situations, and until you can tell me that you are dealing with some MAJOR, I have offically canceled your pity party. I'm sorry no one wanted to go anyway, we can clearly see that train wreck from a mile away and we want to avoid it anyhow. Please for the love of God, keep you "awful life" to yourself, you are truly the only one that feels bad for you, and in most cases you are the one to blame for your FML moment.... Just sayin
Monday, October 29, 2012
Parenting and drugs
Yesterday, I received very sad news that my 6 year old step daughter's mother had a stroke on Saturday. The news is not good, I have been told there is no hope for recovery. This woman is 26, 27 years old. She will be leaving behind a 6yr old and a 2 yr old.
Now that being said, my step daughters mother, has had health problems and on top of those health problems has had drug and alcohol problems as well. Now I do not know if the stroke was in direct relation to drug use, however with her kidney problems and combine with regular drug use, the two could be very closely related. and the said part is, we will never know if this could have been prevented. There are certain meds that she may or may not have been on, that would have been prescribed by her dr. that could have caused this. For example, Darbepoetin alfa, marketed as Aranesp and known as an erythropoiesis-stimulating agent used to treat anemia, can double the risks of a stroke in kidney patients. However, if any non-prescribed drugs come back in her system, then no recourse can be taken. Now again I do not know if she was on this med or not, and there are others that can have the same effect in kidney patients. But we will never know if that was the cause, or if drug use was the cause.
The part to this that is so sad, is two little girls now have to grow up without a mother, and there is no knowing if it could have been prevented or not. Or if a dr is responsible for this terrible thing that has happened. I know my research seems to suggest the type of stroke she had has a high connection with cocaine use and smoking. The medical cause listed would be high blood pressure, if no drugs were involved.
I beg of anyone and everyone reading this, understand that drug use and parenting just do not mix! No child should have to grow up with out a parent because of drugs!! I just pray that my step daughter and her baby sister have some type of memories of their mother when they get older.
Now that being said, my step daughters mother, has had health problems and on top of those health problems has had drug and alcohol problems as well. Now I do not know if the stroke was in direct relation to drug use, however with her kidney problems and combine with regular drug use, the two could be very closely related. and the said part is, we will never know if this could have been prevented. There are certain meds that she may or may not have been on, that would have been prescribed by her dr. that could have caused this. For example, Darbepoetin alfa, marketed as Aranesp and known as an erythropoiesis-stimulating agent used to treat anemia, can double the risks of a stroke in kidney patients. However, if any non-prescribed drugs come back in her system, then no recourse can be taken. Now again I do not know if she was on this med or not, and there are others that can have the same effect in kidney patients. But we will never know if that was the cause, or if drug use was the cause.
The part to this that is so sad, is two little girls now have to grow up without a mother, and there is no knowing if it could have been prevented or not. Or if a dr is responsible for this terrible thing that has happened. I know my research seems to suggest the type of stroke she had has a high connection with cocaine use and smoking. The medical cause listed would be high blood pressure, if no drugs were involved.
I beg of anyone and everyone reading this, understand that drug use and parenting just do not mix! No child should have to grow up with out a parent because of drugs!! I just pray that my step daughter and her baby sister have some type of memories of their mother when they get older.
Monday, October 22, 2012
Back to the single mom and dating
Yeah know I posted yesterday about being a single mom and dating, and when to introduced the kids, etc. I have met a few guys that seemed to push to meet my daughters, (this was before my son) and the minute they push to meet my kids, I bolt, guys that push to hard to meet my kids come across as weird, either they are trying to use my kids to get to me or something more sinister. Which I have had many tell me I am crazy and people are generally good.
For them I ask them to read the following http://www.mysuncoast.com/content/topstories/story/Suncoast-man-gets-life-in-prison-for-sexual/O_0_8P5S5EWFHkJljPLoJg.cspx
and then know, in Oct 2010 this man was trying to date me, on the first date he was telling me how excited he was to meet my daughters. I found this very odd and did not go on a second date with him. He was actually very pushy and talking about how he was already getting attached to me and such.... Clearly a little off! Well I didn't think much else about it and then in March 2011 I see this guy on the news, saying he sexually abused a 9 year old girl (my oldest daughter turned 8 in 2010) then today I see he has gotten life in prison for 6 counts of sexual battery on this poor 9yr old girl!!!!!
For the single mama's out there that are dating WATCH OUT!!!! Make sure that you are following your gut feelings, and remember some of the worse people have been described as very nice and charming... look up what it says about Ted Bundy!! Sometimes these creeps will slide through! This is truely the scariest part of being a single mom! These type of men target single moms! They see our kids as easy prey!!!!! BECAREFUL!!!!!
For them I ask them to read the following http://www.mysuncoast.com/content/topstories/story/Suncoast-man-gets-life-in-prison-for-sexual/O_0_8P5S5EWFHkJljPLoJg.cspx
and then know, in Oct 2010 this man was trying to date me, on the first date he was telling me how excited he was to meet my daughters. I found this very odd and did not go on a second date with him. He was actually very pushy and talking about how he was already getting attached to me and such.... Clearly a little off! Well I didn't think much else about it and then in March 2011 I see this guy on the news, saying he sexually abused a 9 year old girl (my oldest daughter turned 8 in 2010) then today I see he has gotten life in prison for 6 counts of sexual battery on this poor 9yr old girl!!!!!
For the single mama's out there that are dating WATCH OUT!!!! Make sure that you are following your gut feelings, and remember some of the worse people have been described as very nice and charming... look up what it says about Ted Bundy!! Sometimes these creeps will slide through! This is truely the scariest part of being a single mom! These type of men target single moms! They see our kids as easy prey!!!!! BECAREFUL!!!!!
toddlers and pools
Okay, so I live in Florida, we have pools open year round, many people have pools in their own back yard and if not most have a neighbor with a pool. In normal circumstances I see no problem with having a toddler and a pool, heck I have pretty much had a pool home since my oldest daughter was born, never not once, out of have I noticed one of my children missing only to find them face down in the pool.
For starters I watch my children, I have also made it a point that my children know how to swim, my oldest was swimming on her own no floaties by age 1, my second was about 18 months because she has a January birthday and as any Floridian knows, you don't swim in Florida in the winter. So she wasn't in the pool much yet, my son (now 1) is not swimming yet, but he just turned 1 and its getting older here, now last month he was starting to try to swim on his own. I also have made it a point to teach my kids a healthy respect of the pool and the dangers of the pool.
But how, as with the case I am refering to, with a total of 15, yes 15 people living in the home, did not 1 of these people notice that twin 14 month olds were missing BEFORE they were facedown in the pool, how did these toddlers open the door out to the pool, was it not locked??? When you have a house with a pool with toddlers that door stays locked at all times unless an adult is out at the pool, PERIOD!!!
I feel for these parents I really do, and I hope that these twins make a full recovery, but hopefully there is an investigation going on as to if these kids are really safe at home. Sadly the most loving parents do not make up for being stupid.
http://www.baynews9.com/content/news/baynews9/news/article.html/content/news/articles/bn9/2012/10/19/twin_toddlers_who_ne.html
For starters I watch my children, I have also made it a point that my children know how to swim, my oldest was swimming on her own no floaties by age 1, my second was about 18 months because she has a January birthday and as any Floridian knows, you don't swim in Florida in the winter. So she wasn't in the pool much yet, my son (now 1) is not swimming yet, but he just turned 1 and its getting older here, now last month he was starting to try to swim on his own. I also have made it a point to teach my kids a healthy respect of the pool and the dangers of the pool.
But how, as with the case I am refering to, with a total of 15, yes 15 people living in the home, did not 1 of these people notice that twin 14 month olds were missing BEFORE they were facedown in the pool, how did these toddlers open the door out to the pool, was it not locked??? When you have a house with a pool with toddlers that door stays locked at all times unless an adult is out at the pool, PERIOD!!!
I feel for these parents I really do, and I hope that these twins make a full recovery, but hopefully there is an investigation going on as to if these kids are really safe at home. Sadly the most loving parents do not make up for being stupid.
http://www.baynews9.com/content/news/baynews9/news/article.html/content/news/articles/bn9/2012/10/19/twin_toddlers_who_ne.html
Sunday, October 21, 2012
Single parenting and relationships
How do you jugle single parenting and relationships? It seems like a no win situation, I don't want to introduce my kids to everyone I date (not that it's a large number) but then at the same time I don't want to get to involved with someone before they meet my kids. My kids will always come first and if they do not like some one who I am dating, then the dating ends right there.
But what happens when you are dating some one, they have reached the point of meeting your children, and your children love them, but then the problems start. Ya know, that gut feeling they aren't on the up and up.....
Disappearing, not returning phone calls, keeping in touch with people that they admit are trying to hook up with them even though the preson knows they are in a relationship..... The feeling that no matter what you do to get rid of it, just wont go away, that they are running some games on you. What do you do? You know leaving the person will hurt your kids, but staying doesn't really set the best example, clearly you don't want your daughters to think it's okay for a man to treat you that way (no I am not talking about abuse or anything, I am refering to walking all over you) and you don't want your sons to think its ok to treat a woman that way. What do you do? How do you fnd a meaningful relationship, without letting your kids get attached to the wrong one, and protecting them as much as possible, but still finding that compainionship we all need? For me it's not like my kids go with their father on a regular basis (my oldest two, 10 and 8, have the same father, and my son 1, has a different father) So my daughters see their dad on some what of a regular basis (every other friday night) and my son never sees his father. So it's not like I can wait until the kids are with their dad, and then have some mommy time. I love my kids, I want them with me all the time, but I also want some time to spend finding the right person.
But what happens when you are dating some one, they have reached the point of meeting your children, and your children love them, but then the problems start. Ya know, that gut feeling they aren't on the up and up.....
Disappearing, not returning phone calls, keeping in touch with people that they admit are trying to hook up with them even though the preson knows they are in a relationship..... The feeling that no matter what you do to get rid of it, just wont go away, that they are running some games on you. What do you do? You know leaving the person will hurt your kids, but staying doesn't really set the best example, clearly you don't want your daughters to think it's okay for a man to treat you that way (no I am not talking about abuse or anything, I am refering to walking all over you) and you don't want your sons to think its ok to treat a woman that way. What do you do? How do you fnd a meaningful relationship, without letting your kids get attached to the wrong one, and protecting them as much as possible, but still finding that compainionship we all need? For me it's not like my kids go with their father on a regular basis (my oldest two, 10 and 8, have the same father, and my son 1, has a different father) So my daughters see their dad on some what of a regular basis (every other friday night) and my son never sees his father. So it's not like I can wait until the kids are with their dad, and then have some mommy time. I love my kids, I want them with me all the time, but I also want some time to spend finding the right person.
Amanda Todd: Bullied to Death
So recently the story of Amanda Todd has made it around the world. A young girl bullied until she killed herself. I have seen some saying "so what it happens everyday, what makes this girl so special" which is partly true, it is sad that this happens to so many and yet so few you hear about on the news or around the web. But sometimes there is just something about a case that brings media attention, maybe friends and family sought out the media to get the story heard and to draw attention to the issue at hand. I don't think it makes one "specialer" (not sure that's even a word) then the rest, but if it is drawing attention to the problem, does it matter what case makes worldwide news?
Everything that I see about this case or others like it that have made headlines, says "Stop bullying" and is making bullying the main issue. While yes bullying can be an issue, and was clearly the issue in this case and others like it, bullying has been going on forever. Not saying that makes it OK or right, but my point is, back in my school days, kids weren't offing them self because of bullies, we sucked it up and moved on. What has changed that has made kids so unable to deal with this? Has the degree of bullying gotten worse? or have the kids not been taught how to handle it?
Now, I understand back in my day, (I say that like I am so old, however I am not even 30 yet) there was not social media, there was not picture messaging on every cell phone etc. But when did we as parents miss that with changing times and changing technology we need to change what we teach our children. Not just what we teach our children, but how we monitor what our children are doing. My 10 year old has a facebook, however I have her password, and I log in to her page on a regular basis and see not only what she has been posting, but what her friends have been posting, what her messages say, and who she has been talking to. She is not allowed to add any friends, even family, without my say so. She knows the first time I see she has added someone that I did not approve that her page will be deleted. She also has her own cell phone, which I pick up and go through, I check her messages, I check her call log, and I find out who she is talking to and about what. Above and beyond all of these measures, I TALK TO HER! Everyday! I ask her what has been going on at school, I know about Madison, who has been cussing out the teacher and suspended from school three times now. I know about her crush, Blake. I spend time at her school and I know who these kids are. When she says "Ella said this" I know who Ella is. I am an involved parent. I understand that we as parents are busy, trust me I understand that, I work 2 jobs, in class full time and on top of taking care of my 3 kids by myself, I also help raise my 2 nephews and my niece (ages 13,10, and 5) I make time! When you decided to have kids, you decided that for the next 18 or so years your life wouldn't be your own. You made an unspoken promise to those children to be the best parent you can be. Yet so many "parents" can find time to go to the bar, but can't find time to find out how their child's day went. No wonder kids are offing them self because they have no one to turn to!
Everything that I see about this case or others like it that have made headlines, says "Stop bullying" and is making bullying the main issue. While yes bullying can be an issue, and was clearly the issue in this case and others like it, bullying has been going on forever. Not saying that makes it OK or right, but my point is, back in my school days, kids weren't offing them self because of bullies, we sucked it up and moved on. What has changed that has made kids so unable to deal with this? Has the degree of bullying gotten worse? or have the kids not been taught how to handle it?
Now, I understand back in my day, (I say that like I am so old, however I am not even 30 yet) there was not social media, there was not picture messaging on every cell phone etc. But when did we as parents miss that with changing times and changing technology we need to change what we teach our children. Not just what we teach our children, but how we monitor what our children are doing. My 10 year old has a facebook, however I have her password, and I log in to her page on a regular basis and see not only what she has been posting, but what her friends have been posting, what her messages say, and who she has been talking to. She is not allowed to add any friends, even family, without my say so. She knows the first time I see she has added someone that I did not approve that her page will be deleted. She also has her own cell phone, which I pick up and go through, I check her messages, I check her call log, and I find out who she is talking to and about what. Above and beyond all of these measures, I TALK TO HER! Everyday! I ask her what has been going on at school, I know about Madison, who has been cussing out the teacher and suspended from school three times now. I know about her crush, Blake. I spend time at her school and I know who these kids are. When she says "Ella said this" I know who Ella is. I am an involved parent. I understand that we as parents are busy, trust me I understand that, I work 2 jobs, in class full time and on top of taking care of my 3 kids by myself, I also help raise my 2 nephews and my niece (ages 13,10, and 5) I make time! When you decided to have kids, you decided that for the next 18 or so years your life wouldn't be your own. You made an unspoken promise to those children to be the best parent you can be. Yet so many "parents" can find time to go to the bar, but can't find time to find out how their child's day went. No wonder kids are offing them self because they have no one to turn to!
Welcome
Hello,
Well since I am just starting this I will tell you about myself. My name is Ryann (yes pronounced Ryan) Jay, I am a single mama of 3 kids, 2 girls, 1 boy. The girls are 10 and 8 (9 in a couple months) and my son just turned 1 on Oct. 15th. This blog is on my views of current events and on different products that I may use or try out, service recieved at different places etc.
I have a degree in Criminal Justice, I currently work two jobs and will be starting back in school full time on Oct 30th! I am one busy mama! But I wouldn't have it any other way. I hope that you find my blog helpful or entertaining :)
Ryann Jay
Well since I am just starting this I will tell you about myself. My name is Ryann (yes pronounced Ryan) Jay, I am a single mama of 3 kids, 2 girls, 1 boy. The girls are 10 and 8 (9 in a couple months) and my son just turned 1 on Oct. 15th. This blog is on my views of current events and on different products that I may use or try out, service recieved at different places etc.
I have a degree in Criminal Justice, I currently work two jobs and will be starting back in school full time on Oct 30th! I am one busy mama! But I wouldn't have it any other way. I hope that you find my blog helpful or entertaining :)
Ryann Jay
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